Advise dating girl man older young
Are you on the same page, do you communicate well, do you have compatible values? Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
You wouldn't date over your age minus seven times two, so a 22 year old person would max out at a partner aged 30. You asked for the norms; I think most people would say a pairing of a 22 year old and a 34 year old is outside the norm.
However, what matters is not your numerical age but whether you are similar developmentally.
Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40 people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43..
But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.
If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.
But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age – it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.and possibly getting pregnant, perhaps say she can see him but only when you're around - come over for dinner, studying, hanging out while you're there and visible at all times. If they wish to go to a movie or dinner - drive them and accompany them, never leaving them out of your sight. He may grow wary of mom always being around and leave." This mother is seeking advice about her soon to be 17-year-old daughter's relationship with a 21-year-old man.Her daughter was on the right track in school, getting straight A's and had no behavioral problems.Hey, I’m no psychologist – just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation gap between 28 and 45.But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows what Snapchat is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.According to the "norms" you shouldn't date under your age divided by two plus seven.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating