Dating large people
This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing all of their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have.
While there are, of course, some people who only seek relationships for money or power, the truth of the matter is that quite often, people will choose to be with a fat man because they actually want to be with him.
So we have another double-edged myth on our hands: fat men can be warm/cuddly, but they can never be seen as sexual beings, let alone being seen as possibly “good” at sex.
While many fat men are indeed “warm and cuddly,” it’s inherently harmful to fat men as human beings to see this as their only positive trait.
This blatant objectification of fat men’s bodies is the result of what the above myths have done to remove any other positive aspects of what we think of when we look at fat men.
The only redeeming quality our culture puts forth for fat men—if they aren’t rich or powerful, and not even 100% of the time—is that they’re like fluffy teddy bears as opposed to, you know, human beings with other desires.
This survey answer works in tandem with an answer given by one of the contestants that ended up not being on the board: the fat man in question is good at sex.
Steve Harvey, in his “comedic” fashion, acts as if this is the most outrageous answer in the world, as the other contestants and the audience laugh in agreement with the host.
The fact that this myth is the most popular of the 6 given answers—34 of the 100 people originally surveyed gave this or a similar answer—is troubling in and of itself.
This myth is something we see play out throughout the various facets of American culture, whether it’s movies or politics or pop culture.
If a classically attractive person of any gender is with a fat man, the general assumption is that this fat man has to have money, or some sort of power otherwise.
Why else would someone who could presumably get with anyone they wanted choose to be with a disgusting fat man, right?
This myth makes the assumption that, as mentioned above, no one could conceivably be in a relationship with a fat man because they’re actually attracted to him.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating